Jan 28 2010
How Do We Deflect Negative Intentions and Attitudes?
I lead a spirit driven life. I look at life from a spiritual perspective and I do my best to be uplifting and positive to those around me. Like anyone I have challenging moments, days and experiences. I meditate as often as I can to remain balanced and I walk daily with my dog to keep a peaceful attitude and relax. I feel that my life is on track that I’m reaching a place where I can step forward and inspire people to reach for their own healing through reading about my experiences and losses.
Twice in the last couple weeks I’ve been touched by the deeply negative intentions of a person I’ve never met, but know through someone close to me. Her actions are off the chart inappropriate and her ugliness has affected many. She’s out of control and clearly in deep pain. I’ve read the ugliness and pain in her messages and heard through others of their own experiences with her negativity. I’m left wondering how we best deal with those whose negativity and deliberate hatefulness touch our lives. I’ve maintained a clear head and a spiritual heart through this, though it isn’t easy. I have not responded to her tirade though in some moments my ego would love to do so.
I recognize when someone is out of control and I realize in this situation there is nothing to do but step away. My job is simply to detatch from her negative attitudes and intentions and release the situation. It is not my situation to deal with. My job is to keep my own counsel and refrain from making the situation worse than it already is. I can offer caring to those affected and I can pray they’ll be supported. For her I’ve prayed that God helps her to heal and that he shields the rest of us from her further negativity.
Because I’m on the outer edge of the situation I don’t know how it came to be. I only know it’s not desireable or easy to deal with. I know I can only take care of my own emotions and my own perspective on the situation. I cannot change the experience of those living through her daily tirades of ugliness. I can only ask God to guide each of us, and to surround each of us with his love as we learn to detatch. Though this situation is different than many others, the knowledge I’m reminded of through friends and prayer is deliberate detatchment. I can’t change the situation. I can only ride it out with my personal beliefs and actions intact.
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