Aug 24 2009
Inspirations to Guide Those Who Are Healing
365 Steps Toward Healing; Walking the Path of Grief a Step at a Time.
I don’t know at what step you’ve joined me on this healing path. I know there are many many dark days through our grief; days when even one step seems difficult, when just breathing and moving through the day feels deeply painful. You may already be many steps into your path and beyond some of these inspirational healing steps, if so simply skip beyond those you feel you have worked through.
Some steps will be quick and others will take you more time and contemplation, there is no particular speed at which you should do these steps. Each step offers a comfort and a task, this gives you a sense of support/comfort as you prepare to step forward into healing. Your grief and healing is an individual as you are, so take steps as you feel ready. May you each find a measure of support and comfort through these steps and inspirations.
Lisa Overman
Step 1
Comfort
Find a shirt or belonging of your loved one and keep it near. It will bring you a sense of comfort.
Task
Find a place of silence and remember your loved one. Allow your heart to connect to the love you shared and the memories you treasure. Allow your tears to fall.
Step 2
Comfort
Talk to someone who also loves or cares about your loved one. Treasure each other’s memories and hold them near.
Task
Play a song or cd you love and sit in quiet prayer, allowing spirit to surround you with healing love.
Step 3
Comfort
Spend an hour with a friend, laugh, cry, talk and share.
Task
Go for a walk and talk from your heart to your loved one. Share the depth of your love.
Step 4
Comfort
Wear something special that reminds you of your loved one, it could be a gift they gave you that you treasure or simply something that belonged to them.
Task
Write down what you’re feeling. Share your pain with spirit and allow your tears to flow for their loss. Finish with a prayer, asking God to surround you in his love and the love of your angels.
Step Five
Comfort
Lie down and listen to peaceful music.
Task
Call a friend or loved one and vent your pain.
Step Six
Comfort
Gather with those you love and share your memories.
Task
Ask a friend or loved one to help you find a therapist. Having a weekly appointment to dump your pain will be a release. Go regularly for three to six months. * I learned this lesson the hard way. After my daughter died I didn’t want to go to a grief group or seek therapy. Instead I ended up deeply depressed and rarely left my home for several months. Ten years later as my mother battled cancer I found myself realizing a therapist would be necessary to get through the pain of her loss. This time around I found a therapist so when she passed I’d have a support who would listen without judgement and who could help me release some of my deepest pain. I saw her for six months, it helped me.
